I recently viewed a video of the monk Thich Nhat Hanh sharing four mantras that can change your life right away, and then immediately had the chance to use one of them.
The first two mantras are:
“My darling, I am here for you.” (showing true presence)
“My darling, I know you are there.”(Recognizing your loved ones presence is very precious, to be loved means to be recognized as existing and this recognition can cause her or him to bloom like a flower).
These two mantras can bring happiness right away.
I happen to be laying in bed one night viewing this video when my son entered the room saying “Mom”…I immediately put down my phone and said “My darling, I am here for you” and then proceeded to make eye contact and listen. He talked for fourty minutes, hugged me and said “this was nice” and left the room for bed. I hadn’t said anything during those minutes, I just listened. It was so powerful, I was blown away. Then, my daughter walked in right afterward “Mom”…again “My darling, I am here for you.” She proceeded to talk and tell me everything going on in her life. Thirty minutes later, we hugged, she commented on how nice our discussion was and left the room. Again, I had listened completely, not saying a word. The simplicity and power of this mantra was deeply moving to me and a great reminder of how important it is to recognize and listen to our loved ones.
A great quote that summarizes it beautifully –
“Listening is such a simple act. It requires us to be present, and that takes practice, but we don’t have to do anything else. We don’t have to advise, or coach, or sound wise. We just have to be willing to sit there and listen.”
– Margaret J. Wheatley
Enjoy, and I would love to hear how it works for you!
Here is the link to the video –